One Simple Secret Psychological Trigger to Make Your Ex Want You Again
If you’ve recently been dumped, you know as well as I do how tough it can get to get your ex to want you again. Often, they don’t even return our calls, texts or emails. Obviously this makes getting back together really tough. If you can’t talk to them, you can’t solve the issues or correct what was wrong, or ultimately be together again.
Or can you?
Before we talk about how this one simple psychological trigger can change things for you in an instant, let’s see how we usually go about getting back with someone we love. And wrap our minds around why it never works.
Usually we tell them how much we love them, how much you miss them, and how much you’re willing to change. The problem with this is you’re trying to change their MIND. Imagine this (if you’re a girl): some guy walks up to you and gives you a list of all the reasons you should have sex with him.
Imagine this (if you’re a guy): a girl walks up to you and gives you a list of all the reasons you should fall in love with her. Would that work? Probably not.
Because, attraction and desire are subconscious mind behaviors and reason and logic are conscious mind behaviors. See, you’re literally speaking the wrong language. Juste comme essayer de parler français à quelqu’un qui il ne parle pas. (Just like trying to speak french to someone who doesn’t speak it).
Literally talking to the wrong part of the brain. So what do you do? Instead of changing their mind, you learn to change their MOOD.
Every thing we do, every behavior we engage in, is based on our mood. You know this is true in your own life. You’re more likely to do things for people if you’re in a good mood. Listen, the key to getting your ex interested in you is changing their mood. If you’re willing to have a little patience and a little courage, it can change for you in an instant. I’m going to teach you how to do it right here:
After a breakup, your ex probably feels some negative feelings (anger, bitterness, or just tired of seeing you) toward you. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have broken up. If you call, text, email, send FB messages, show up to see them, what feeling are you reinforcing? That’s right. Not the ones you want. You want them to let those negative feelings subside, so they can remember the good.
- The good memories.
- The good jokes.
- The good times of intimacy.
And with the seeds of these memories (instead of the reminders of frustration, anger, whatever) sprouts up a beautiful thing called desire. And that desire is what makes them MISS YOU. You know this is a psychological trigger by experience. You know it works, because it’s worked on you. With your ex not returning your calls, being unavailable and not around, does it make you want them more? Of course it does.
Now, you’re going to use the same trigger to your advantage. This is the real power of the NC acronym. And it’s important for you to know where the power comes from. Because it arouses the same primal instincts that have been driving you crazy since you broke up.
Here’s what I want you to:
- Don’t contact them.
- Not by phone.
- Not by email.
- Not by carrier pigeon.
- For at least three weeks.
If you do that, and allow this powerful psychological trigger to work for you, you’ll find your ex is suddenly feeling the seeds of desire growing for you again.